Today I watched a friend of mine go on a rant about how she had gotten "fired" from a particular job, if you will. The rant consisted of her basically saying all the reasons why she shouldn't be fired and what they would be losing, if they lost her.
I watched, as a person whom I normally admire and seek advice from, went from mentor to repulsive. I still love her, and know that we have all had our moments but I wondered to myself why I was actually getting so disgusted. Then I realized that the lack of humility was a turn off. Instead of being honored at getting the job in the first place, it was expected. Instead of humility at the action(s) that got her fired, there was justification.
Its a slippery slope and I see it often. Even myself. We go from hopeful, to shock. Shock to expectation. And then one day we become irate and obnoxious.
I have also acquired a sense of boldness that I now with absolute certainty is new. In terms of relationships, both romantic and platonic, I have found myself calling things out. Where I used to be scared and passive agressive, I am tired. I dont have time for that so I just ask the tough questions. Tonight, it led to some awkward texts and some relationship work and instead of sugarcoating things like I normally would, i just said it.
But the two go hand in hand. Humilty and Relationships. We need the first before we can have the second. Because I have tried it without each other and boy does it suck.